Left in Place, Emotional Triggers Drain your Power

You do not heal by lashing out, numbing out, or checking out. You heal by going in.

When you are reactive, you do not have access to your wisest, higher-self-connected awareness.

Your energy has contracted. You can’t breathe quite right. Your heart may be beating faster, even if you are standing perfectly still. An old wounded energy knot has been activated by a dynamic that feels all too familiar, even if the person you are engaging with is someone you only met three months ago.

The contracted knot contains old memories and an old pattern of reaction that has likely been executed more times than you can count.

If you have not practiced loving awareness with yourself, you are very likely to find yourself resorting to one of the three outs, as I call them in my book, Heal What Hurts: How to Heal Emotional Triggers.

The three outs are lashing out, numbing out, and checking out.

Lashing out is when you try desperately to make it clear to someone else that they need to change so you don’t have to feel the contraction.

Numbing out is when you reach for your favorite numbing agent. These days the phone is right there, but it may also be sugar, alcohol, weed, food, shopping, or anything else that takes the edge off the contracted feeling in the body.

Checking out is when you become cold, distant, overly intellectual, and unfeeling.

The outs are human. They are understandable. We have all done them in some combination, and we have all been on the receiving end of them more times than we can count.

But they do not work.

They make us feel worse. They make us need more and more of our “out” just to take the edge off and temporarily relax the contracted energy that feels so awful.

Most of us have not learned a better way. Many of us don’t even realize that none of the three outs actually solve anything in a real way. So we may have to become like children, learning a whole new way.

But it is not a hard way.

It is a loving way.

It is going in instead of out.

It is learning to be with the contracted energy much like you would be with a small, scared child who had a nightmare and needs to be held until they realize the scary story is not real, love is here, and you are not going anywhere.

In the Heal What Hurts process, we learn to pinpoint the contracted energy in the body. We learn to hear what it has to say. And we learn to remain the loving parent who holds the fear, rather than becoming the fear.

As we practice, we become more connected to our divine, infinite self, born out of the Source of creation and the core of our being. As we learn to hold our contracted energy, we grow closer and closer to Source. We run away from ourselves less and less. We do less and less “out,” and more and more “in.”

The book is a beautiful beginning. It gives you the tools and lays out a step-by-step guide for addressing your triggers, finding them in the sacred roadmap of the body, and realizing how cleverly you may have drawn in the same “villain” many times, and may continue to do so until you find the negative, contracted pattern in your body and dissolve it with loving presence.

And now I am inviting you to practice this work with me in community.

Join the Heal What Hurts Coaching Program if you are ready to stop being roped into triggered dynamics by unresolved pain, and instead learn the simple loving awareness tools that shift the energy from the inside out.

It is a life-changing, transformative process.

I would love to have you with us.